I don’t love you the most

When driving the other day my oldest daughter said something that sorta hurt my feelings.
Mommy, I don’t love you the most right now.
Hmm, that come from nowhere I thought. So I asked her why not.
Because you are just driving right now and I love you the most when you are playing with me.
If there is one thing I have learned having a 3yr old in the house it’s that they always have a reason for everything whether or not it makes sense to our adult minds. This however, was one if those times that her reasoning did make sense to me. It makes sense to me that my three year old, who lives in the moment, would love me the most in the moments that she loves the most. In the same thinking, I have to try to not take it too personal when she doesn’t love me the most in moments that she doesn’t like or when I ask her to do things she doesn’t love, like picking up her toys.
Now, my love for my children may not change depending on the situation we are in, but there are definitely moments that I don’t love. Catching them colouring on the walls, when they refuse to put on their hats, coats and shoes, reading the same book over and over and over again, dumping out the box if blocks right after we cleaned them up, these are just a few of the moments and I could continue but I think you get the point. The challenge is making sure my kids know that regardless of the situation, good or bad, they know I love them the most all the time.
One day I hope they understand this concept of unconditional love, but until then, I guess I’ll just have to play more!


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